The entrepreneurial life can be a hard and arduous grind sometimes. At some points, it appears as if the labor isn’t worth the reward. This is especially true when you are selling your products and services and you get a flurry of no’s. What’s even worse is when a very close yes turns into a firm no. And then that’s it, all the work and effort you put into cultivating a sale all goes to naught. It’s times like this that you have to refocus on your goals and what reaching those goals will mean for you and your family. The yes that you finally get will be worth all of those no’s you endured. So keep going until you get a yes, then after you get that, go further still.
Whenever I’m working on something, there always seems to be some sort of distraction tempting me to take my eyes off what I’m currently doing. Earlier today I was writing out some of my professional goals for the year and random thoughts such as watering the plants and what I was going to wear for an upcoming trip almost three weeks from now popped up. Not only that, when I’m working on priority items such as business development or preparing for an upcoming engagement, a flood of ideas (that have no real consequence) seek to rob me of my focus. Perhaps you’ve been in similar situations. As of late, I’ve had to cut back on social media. As entertaining as it is, man is it a time drainer. Before you know it, you look up and you’ve been on Facebook watching videos for an hour. It has happened to me several times.
We must remember that the time we have can never be given back. Every second we are alive is the most precious gift we possess and it is fleeting. That’s why we must prioritize what matters the most and because that is what will make the biggest difference in our lives.
Sometimes, we find ourselves stuck in life. We have dreams and aspirations that we want to accomplish, but lack the resources or know how to carry them out. If this reality persists for a long time, many throw in the towel altogether and stop trying to achieve what they want. I’m starting to realize that if there is something that you want to have or do, you have to become obsessed with it. You may not be able to control when you will get it, but you can control if you get it or not. By being obsessed with it, you actually begin to intentionally and unintentionally do things that bring you closer to your desired outcome. I believe that your obsessions (the healthy ones) are a sign that the Creator has something for you in that particular area. I use to think I was going too hard in certain areas, only to later understand that God put that drive in me to accomplish or gain something in particular. Use that fire to drive you to places you’ve never been before. That fire is the faith (found in scripture) that can really move mountains.
An investment that I’ve seen yield tremendous returns in my life is taking the time out to write down my goals. When you write something out, it really helps make your thinking clearer and gives you a more vivid picture of how to arrive there. I can’t really describe it, but seeing something visually makes it that much more tangible. This is life altering because you will find yourself both consciously and subconsciously, aligning your life around these respective milestones. You’ll feel an inner nagging when you begin to stray and this helps you get back onto the right path. Goal setting grounds you in truth because it enables you to measure how you are performing in life and cuts out the superfluous activity that ultimately leads nowhere. We all need some sort of feedback in order to improve as people, professionals, so on and so forth. Using goals as a barometer can act as a systematic approach to unlocking new levels of potential.
New year, new you, new new new and all that jazz right? 2016 was such a huge year for me for so many different reasons, I was tempted to just relax a little and not work so hard. And while that’s not necessarily a bad idea (we all need to rest and breathe sometimes), I came to the realization that you have to keep momentum going while you have it. Because it’s hard to gain but easy to lose. I started this year off, sleeping in a little longer and just kind of existing. Until that still small voice reminded me that a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands and scarcity will creep up on you like a bandit. I instantly came to and got back on the grind and reestablished my focus. As I’m talking to you, I’m also talking to myself, don’t start the year off being idle. Idle is not the same as being still. It’s important for us to be still in order to find our center and make wise moves. What I’m saying is, don’t waste time by not proactively moving toward your goals. If you start procrastinating now, you’ll look up 6 months from now and still be in the same place. It’s time to get cracking and start heading where you want to go now!
We’ve all been endowed with equipment that can enable us to empower ourselves to do great things. This equipment comes in the forms of talents, gifts, personality, attitude, physical ability, connections, and more. If we tap into and use this equipment the right way, it has the potential to open up amazing opportunities for us. This is an exciting prospect if you think about it. It saddens me when I see people who don’t realize their potential. There are infinite possibilities within us just waiting to be unleashed, we are just one connection or idea away from it becoming real. Once we know this, we will never be the same again. Everyday is a day of expectation and curiosity because we are actively searching for the next ingredient that will unlock another piece of our destiny.
Once we become empowered in a certain area, it’s necessary to use that power to begin to lift up others who are seeking to more fully know their own power. Humanity suffers when some people are allowed to discover new facets of themselves, while others are not. This is the dilemma with the have’s and the have not’s. I truly believe that our power (and influence) increases when we take the time to light the other human candles around us that are hungry to shine and provide light. Think how silly it would be if only one house or building had power in an entire neighborhood or city. Similarly, it’s not a good look when we are empowered (in power) and those around us are not. Spread the wealth as you are able.
Have you ever been at a place in life where you realize that you want something different than what you are currently getting? Perhaps you realize that you want better relationships, want to make more money, be healthier, or make more of an impact in the world. In flashes of inspiration we may begin to take some preliminary steps to go in a different direction, but then we get discouraged because “real” life sets in and we then go back to our old habits. This can leave us even more discouraged because we then begin to lose hope in our ability to change anything. Well, I’m here today to offer you some solutions if you are currently here. Change is inevitable, the trick is being able to position yourself to prosper from change in the way you desire when it occurs. Here are a few ideas to keep in mind that will help you implement the change you want to see in your life.
- Write down what you want. Many of us don’t get what we want because we don’t know what we want in the first place. You have to go through the exercise of defining in very specific terms what you want. When you do this and write it down, you train your mind to recognize the things necessary to obtain it. It’s sort of like when you buy a certain type of car, you then begin to see other people driving the same type of car as you. You’ve created an emotional posted note for your brain, and your brain begins to subconsciously connect the dots for you. I’ve had so many opportunities come my way because I clearly defined what I wanted. When you live from the place of your vision, you see things on a whole new level which transcends your current circumstances.
- Do something everyday related to the change you want to see. World renowned speaker and trainer Tony Robbins says that we are the result of our daily rituals. This is so true. We become what we consistently do. If you smoke everyday, you become known as a smoker. If you read everyday, you become known as a reader. When you “x” everyday, you become known as… you fill in the blank. The greatest change comes from doing small consistent things on a daily basis as oppose to doing really huge things inconsistently. To see real change in your life, you have to become intentional about creating new habits and sticking to them. The goal is to make the positive change you desire a part of your nature. This is where most people give up, fail, and go back to their original normal which only gets them more of want they don’t like in the first place.
- Get mentors or friends (or both) that are where you want to be. This is critical. You need to surround yourself with like minded people who are as “crazy” as you are. I say crazy because the people whom you associate with that are part of your current reality will not understand why you are trying to make the changes you are attempting. To them, you will appear crazy because you are breaking their “normal” construct. And if they understand, they may hinder you from trying to get to your new destination in life because they want you to stay where they’re at. When you try to better your situation, it can make the people currently around you uncomfortable. So it is imperative to begin to bring new people into your life who will support, affirm, and assist you in the changes you are making. They will act as coaches and partners that uplift you when you feel like giving up. We are the product of our 5 closest relationships.
- Measure your progress. It’s not always easy to spot when change is occurring in your life. So every now and then you need to stop and take inventory of where you started and where you are currently at. When you measure your results, it will encourage you when you see how far you have come. That’s why personal trainers have their clients take before and after pictures. You may not notice a 2 pound weight loss with your naked eye, but it feels good when you see a lower weight on the scale. Measuring your progress also allows you see what isn’t working. If you are not making any progress within a certain amount of time, that may be a sign that you need to try a different strategy to reach your aim.
- Feed Your Mind. You have to fuel your mind with images, literature, and experiences that align with the change you seek after. Your mind is your most powerful ally in changing your life. Your thoughts will either make you or break you. The information we consume acts as the gasoline that takes us where we want to go. Listen to motivational speeches, read autobiographies, listen to empowering music, and watch shows that will inspire you on your journey. Also seek to create new experiences for yourself that allow you to envision yourself living in the change you desire. Go look at houses in the neighborhood you want to live in, test drive the car you want to drive, save up and go on a trip, etc.
Change is possible in your life. You have to believe it at your core and continue to reaffirm that belief through action, thought, and whom you associate with. You are powerful and can do all things. See you at the top!
When a little success comes, it’s easy to become complacent and begin to stop doing the things that made that very bit of success possible. That’s the absolute worst time to let off the gas is when you you are making some progress. Momentum is a difficult thing to gain but can be lost before you know it. It’s smart to reflect on your success in order to evaluate what you are doing right and what can be done better, but then it’s soon time to get back to the grind and keep pushing forward. Opportunities are not easy to come by in this modern day. The competition is thick and fierce on every front. Any open door you get should be treated with the utmost respect and well executed upon. Stop reading your own press and continue to find ways to make new press, that is, history.